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The ability to delay gratification

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In 1972, Stanford professor Walter Mischel conducted a study involving children and a tempting marshmallow. He instructed the children that if they refrained from eating the marshmallow while he briefly left the room, they would be rewarded with a second marshmallow upon his return. Originally intended as an examination of delayed gratification, the study yielded even more compelling insights over the ensuing decades.

James Clear succinctly summarized the findings: Children who demonstrated the patience to wait for the second marshmallow exhibited higher SAT scores, excelled in academic achievements, displayed lower rates of substance abuse and obesity, demonstrated enhanced stress management abilities, showcased superior social skills (according to parental reports), and generally achieved higher scores across various life measures. It became evident that robust impulse control didn't just secure an additional treat; it played a pivotal role in shaping a lifetime of forgoing immediate rewards in pursuit of more substantial, long-term successes.

The Ability to Delay Gratification

You can cultivate the ability to delay gratification through various means, such as adopting a structured diet or following a program that organizes different aspects of your life. Begin with a simple step, and explore this book "Your First Step Towards Your Best Self" it provides valuable insights to help you establish an organized lifestyle program encompassing aspects like fitness, sleep, and diet.

Conscientiousness

Conscientious people are super organized and responsible. They take themselves seriously, plan ahead, control their impulses... and with good cause. These behaviors have "staggeringly" high correlation rates with success. Studies have shown that conscientiousness impacts everything from a person's salary to their job satisfaction, as well as their ability to find work and keep it, among other things.

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A belief in free will

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Roy F. Baumeister delved into the consequences of losing faith in one's ability to choose, discovering that individuals who perceive a lack of control over their lives tend to act less responsibly and succumb to their instincts more readily. His research highlights that those who don't believe in free will, are more prone to dishonesty, aggression, and less kindness towards others.

A robust belief in free will is linked to various positive outcomes, ranging from enhanced career performance to an increased likelihood of overcoming addiction. Your personal philosophy, it appears, permeates every aspect of your life, underscoring the critical importance of evaluating your perception of the agent of change in your own narrative

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Being in an open network

Engaging in an "open network" entails socializing with diverse individuals. In contrast, those within closed networks limit their social interactions primarily to like-minded individuals, and this tendency can lead to detrimental long-term consequences.

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Childhood adversity

While adversity may seem an unexpected factor in one's journey to success, it's intriguing to observe that many accomplished individuals often emerge from less-than-ideal backgrounds. This phenomenon can be attributed to the concept of the adversity quotient, which reflects how individuals respond to challenges. Those who are adept at handling adversity not only navigate it more effectively but also exhibit heightened motivation to transcend their current circumstances. While childhood adversity is often associated with negative adaptations in adulthood, some outliers find a silver lining in their resilience and ability to overcome challenges.

Childhood Adversity

Avid reading

The adage "readers become leaders" holds true for a reason. Those with a passion for reading often exhibit higher levels of intelligence, empathy, and creativity, thanks to the enhanced connectivity and function of their brains. Beyond these cognitive benefits, reading provides a continuous flow of new information. By dedicating a week to a book, you can absorb a wealth of knowledge that an expert spent a lifetime compiling. Consistently engaging in this practice allows you to cultivate your inner capacity at an exponential rate, fostering ongoing personal growth.

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Past success

The adage "past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior" holds especially true for success. Individuals who experience small victories not only build confidence but also generate the momentum necessary to persevere. Dr. Arnout van de Rijt, who conducted a study on this phenomenon at the Institute for Advanced Computational Science at Stony Brook, remarked:

"Theoretically, it's hard to see if the 'success breeds success' effect exists; it could be that it reflects genuine ability. To tease out where the success comes from, we did experiments that gave artificial help to some people and not others. In real-life environments, we gave success to some people… and found that these arbitrarily favored individuals were more successful at the end than others not given this preferred treatment."

The study underscores the significance of "little boosts" at the outset and emphasizes the need for intervention for those starting from a position of limited resources.

Past Success

Grit

The term "grit" has gained prominence, especially since Angela Duckworth's book of the same title brought it into the spotlight. Essentially synonymous with perseverance, or as Forbes contributor Amy Morin puts it, mental strength, "grit" challenges the notion that talent is innate. Research suggests that talent is, in fact, a product of grit, entirely dependent on one's commitment to its practice. Dr. K. Anders Ericsson's studies lead to the conclusion:

"The differences between expert performers and normal adults are not immutable, that is, due to genetically prescribed talent. Instead, these differences reflect a life-long period of deliberate effort to improve performance."

In essence, grit is the catalyst for ongoing improvement and excellence, debunking the myth of innate talent.

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